Monday, July 21, 2008
In Persuit of Happiness
In Persuit of Happiness Major(R)Khalid Nasr
Happiness is the pursuit of many us.In fact, we live for life,liberty and the pursuit of happiness.’ But so many seem without happiness. Why is this? It is my contention that happiness is yours for the taking. That is, anyone can be happy if the choose to be… and if they know how to get it. So what does it take to bring us to a state of happiness? Here are a few thoughts to get you on your way: 1.Do not try to control circumstances:One of the biggest “happiness busters” I see is in the frustration people experience because circumstances have gone beyond their control. This is because their mind-set is that they should be somehow able to control circumstances. But let’s get this straight: You can’t! So the first thing you can do to give yourself happiness is to stop trying to control, or taking responsibility for circumstances that are outside of your control! 2.Understand that you can only control yourself:There is only one thing you can control in this world and that is yourself. You can’t control the weather,your kids or spouse, or anything for that matter outside of your own beliefs, thoughts, attitudes and actions. Focus all of your attention on developing yourself and doing what is right – controlling yourself while letting what will happen, happen – and you will find happiness opening up within you. 3.Decide what it is that you want out of life and then stick to it relentlessly:This is two parts: First, know what you want. Get real clear with yourself. Take a private retreat to be alone if you have to, but come to grips with what you want your life to look like. Secondly, devote yourself to that passion and do not be sidetracked. It is interesting to me how many options we have – good options – that if we pursue them they will actually crush our happiness because they will take us away from what will really make us happy. 4.Live for a legacy:We cannot be self-absorbed and live only for ourselves. Yes, we only control ourselves, but we can live for the betterment of others. Live your life in such a way that others are touched and you will find yourself feeling happiness in ways that you could never imagine. 5.Settle your finances:Whatever your financial goals are, get them! Having poor finances is one of the major causes of unhappiness. Now, some people are completely content on Rs30,0000 a year. Others need Rs200,0000 a year. That is okay. We all have different desires, needs, and goals. But the key is to know what you want your financial life to look like and then do what it takes to get there. Among the major things to do is to eliminate as much debt as possible, if not all! 6.Surround yourself with good friends:Good friend are such a blessing! I have some of the most intelligent, capable, successful, and caring friends a person could have. I have five or four people in my life that I completely trust and admire. When friendships are clicking, there is almost nothing that provides more happiness. Take time to develop your friendships. 7.Develop your primary love relationship:Marriage will show you both heaven and hell! Marriage, when it is going well will send you out the door each morning on cloud nine. When it isn’t going well, it affects every area of your life negatively. Do whatever you can – work hard – at developing your primary love relationship. The rewards of happiness you reap will be tremendios.Happiness is yours for the taking and you can develop your life in such a way as to be able to experience all of the happiness you can handle.